I'LL FIGHT FOR YOUR YOUNG PEOPLE, WILL YOU? A Pastor's Plea to Christian Parents

This little write-up comes from the heart as a passionate plea to parents in the shared concern for our children.

It’s been hard to pastor in a conservative church today, but not for the reasons that you might think. It’s not that we are constantly being attacked from the outside for our music, confessions, and worship style. I’m sure it happens, but most people who come to us find what we are doing as unique and refreshing, especially if they are from a broadly evangelical background. It’s been one of the pleasant surprises of the ministry.

My biggest challenge over the many years of my ministry has come from those on the inside, particularly parents between the ages of 45-60. There is one issue that has produced the struggle: their young people are leaving the church.

Many parents have watched for years the same old story happen over and over. As soon as a young person returns from college, little to no interest is shown in attending church. There seems to be no interest in the church of their upbringing. I share the concern and burden these parent's face.

It is in this struggle that parents often become bitter in their home church, blaming the church for the departure, wanting to see the church change to retain their youth. This creates an oppressive environment of disgruntlement and embarrassment of the particular identity of their local church--stick in the muds, stuffy, etc. And how does our church compete when the church next door offers a much easier consumer-driven Christianity? A painful dilemma indeed.

But parents often give little thought to how they have contributed to the problem. 

With this in mind, I have some kind suggestions that may help churches fight this battle for their young people.

While I don’t represent every pastor here or speak for them, these are ways I commit to fight for the youth of our church. Hopefully other pastors can adopt the same. In all these things I say: God helping me.
  • I will love your young people enough to preach the whole counsel of God to them.  I am committed to God’s Word and I will tell them the whole truth.

  • I will call your young people to repentance and faith. This won’t be easy.  Some who have yet to profess their faith will not like to be told they are wrong. The law will hurt. Some may get angry at the stances I’m called to take. It may at times seem like we’re losing the battle. But I’m committed to this fight for your young people.

  •  I will make known the riches of Jesus Christ and his gospel to them. They will never be left without a way of escape. I want them to enjoy Christ and his forgiveness and live in his peace.

  • I will stand for truth and expose error. I will not pander to sinful desires for false worship. I am zealous to keep golden calves out of the church. I know we live in day when people hate saying anybody or anything is wrong, but I promise to tell them what is wrong and who is wrong (as the inspired NT authors did) to protect them from the path of hell.

  • I will pray for your young people. It’s a battle that must be fought with prayer. My door is always open for you to come to my study and pray with me for them

Now here are five ways parent’s can join in the spiritual fight for their young people to help stop the trend:
  • Bring them to church and show a delight for the gospel. If you truly believe that the preaching of the gospel is the power of God to save those who believe, then do all in your power to have your children in worship at a very young age. Don’t let them leave to children’s church. Train their minds to listen a sermon. It is God’s way of grace to them. They must learn and see from you where the true power of God is found, in the Word.  Hold it high, and they will too.

  • Speak well of your pastor and leaders. More damage is done when you speak evil of the church, the pastor, or the leaders before your children. If you want them to have a positive view of the church, you must show them one. Realize that before disgruntlement often comes a refusal to accept God’s Word. A disgruntled and complaining spirit is a certain recipe to drive them out. 

  • Be willing to tell your children the truth and call them to repentance through loving discipline. Far too many parents are scared of their young people and let them do whatever they want to do. You are responsible to discipline them and speak the truth to them in love. There is right and wrong, teach and expose them both. If you stand for nothing, so will they. Why then would you expect them to stay in church?

  • Be an example to them in life of what it means to be godly. J.C. Ryle commenting on Lot’s worldliness says, “Lingering parents seldom have godly children. The eye of the child drinks in far more than the ear. A child will always observe what you do much more than what you say.” Be an example to them in doctrine and in life.

  • Train them and pray for them. This means gathering at the table to catechize and pray for them before their ears. It also means means praying that God would make them born again by his Spirit. How many people are bringing your child’s name in prayer to the throne of grace. What a tragedy if God never hears from you about the salvation of your children!
So dear parents, I made a commitment to fight for your young people, will you?



One of the great problems in any current controversy is overreaction to a perceived problem. If someone feels that one doctrine is being overemphasized, the way to correct the problem must be to balance things out by emphasizing another doctrine. At times, this is certainly necessary and expected unless, of course, the theological priorities in the correction get lost. In other words, there are certain theological categories that if their logical priority is lost, the pursuit of balance can actually make things worse. 

This is currently happening with many of the discussions regarding sanctification. Many have diagnosed the “grace boys” movement as antinomian. In reaction to what is assumed to be an overemphasis on justification and a narrow definition of the gospel, there has been an aggressive effort to balance things back out by re-emphasizing sanctification.

In the past few years we have seen a plethora of articles by authors emphasizing the necessity of good works for salvation and judgment by works. As I stated elsewhere, the pastoral implications of this are being missed in the zeal to correct perceived antinomianism. All of this has created an unhelpful citation war. Present writers, hoping to regain balance, gain support for their positions by stockpiling quotations from past theologians. While these theologians are certainly worth citing, their work was done in their own contexts and with proper theological ordering. This makes the interjection of their citations, pulled from their own contexts and inserted into our current discussions, well, challenging to say the least.



A while back Carl Trueman posted an article with a fair concern of the transformationalist ideals.  Trueman writes,  
Surely it is time to become realistic. It is time to drop the cultural elitism that poses as significant Christian transformation of culture but only really panders to nothing more than middle class tastes and hobbies.  It is time to look again at the New Testament's teaching on the church as a sojourning people where here we have no lasting home."


The Gospel of the Synagogue Versus the Gospel of the Son of God

Years ago I remember hearing an old wise elder say to me that if my sermon could be accepted in a Jewish synagogue then it is not a distinctively Christian sermon.  I’ve thought a lot about that over the years. What makes Christian sermons distinctively Christian? What damage could be done in the life of the Christian church if our sermons lose their distinctively Christian character?  To answer that, of course, one would need to understand and appreciate what makes a gospel message distinctively “gospel”. 

To be sure, the word “gospel” is used differently in the Scriptures.  Robert Godfrey provides a helpful observation:
Sometimes the word gospel refers broadly to all aspects of the salvation and new life that Jesus gives His people, and sometimes it is used narrowly to refer to what Jesus does for us outside of us. In other words, sometimes the term gospel refers broadly to Jesus’ work of justification and sanctification for and in His people, and sometimes it refers narrowly to Jesus’ work of justification. 
Godfrey also makes the case that sometimes the word “gospel” refers more broadly to all the New Testament fulfillment of what was promised in the Old Testament.  It is in this sense that Mark uses “gospel” when he says in chapter 1, “the beginning of the gospel of Jesus Christ, the Son of God.” Mark is explaining the gospel as the person and work of Christ in fulfillment on behalf of his people. 

This is crucial for understanding the overall theological intent and purpose of the gospel of Mark.



The following is a guest post by Pastor Mark Stromberg of the Lynden United Reformed Church.  Since YWAM has established itself in Lynden, this article may help people think through some of the problems with the movement. 

YWAM—My Story

Apart from the Northwest County fair, one of the largest community events in Lynden, Washington, is the Northwest Rasberry Festival.  This year YWAM Montana and the founders of YWAM, Loren and Darlene Cunningham, were present to conclude the Festival and promote the new YWAM base which is going to find its home in the basement of the Dutch Mall on Front Street. The theme for the promotional event was “Make Jesus Famous”.  During Cunningham’s inspirational lecture he illustrated how the Bible has had a major impact upon cultures around the world.  The crowd was clearly enthusiastic about Cunningham’s presence in Lynden and his inspiring message.   



In light of the current debates surrounding the doctrine of sanctification, we should be careful to stay close to the language of our confessions. With that in mind, Heidelberg Catechism, Lord's Day 114 asks the following:

 114. Q.

But can those converted to God
keep these commandments perfectly?


In this life even the holiest
have only a small beginning
of this obedience. 

Nevertheless, with earnest purpose
they do begin to live
not only according to some
but to all the commandments of God.

I have a few questions: If the "holiest" have only a "small beginning" of this new obedience, what are we to say about least holy in this life? Are they in danger with less than a small beginning of holiness?  How can the least holy who lack even a small beginning of holiness find any comfort?



I have been following, again, the current internet debates over sanctification.  It's troubling. Have we really not figured this out yet? Did the Reformation not make things clear for us? While it's not unhealthy to have brotherly discourse over these matters, I woke up this morning and read the following by Rick Philips at Reformation 21:

I can think of few messages more urgently needed by our worldly churches today than the necessity of pursuing practical holiness through obedience and good works.  I realize that many even of our Reformed brothers would rather ignore James' teaching than work through its challenges, both doctrinally and practically.  But as my friend insisted, "James is, you know, in the Bible. 



The Pretender in the Pulpit

In his excellent book, “The Courage to be Protestant”, David Wells opens chapter two with a startling account of an Easter worship service.  Wells writes, “It’s Easter morning 2006. And there lurking in the shadows, is a figure rarely seen in church. It’s Superman. Yes, Superman! He who leaps tall buildings in a single bound as he pursues evildoers.  No, wait a minute. It’s not him. Actually it’s only the senior pastor all decked out as Superman ready to communicate the gospel to a new generation…”  If this were playing on my MP3 player I’d hit stop at this point.  Does that really occur anymore? Seriously?  I think enough critique has happened by now that people have told their senior pastor to take off the Superman mask.  Aren’t we done now with the superficial, ear-tickling pastor? 
I have for some time been concerned that many churchgoers view the megachurch practices as so far out there that ignorance now prevails among Christians as to how subtle Satan is working in churches that claim to hold fast the truth.  More needs to be said of what I have observed as artificial imitation or, as Martyn Lloyd Jones used to call it, pulpiteering, in churches that are proud of their doctrinal heritage.  Did you know that a preacher could be nothing more than a good actor? I’m hoping this brief write-up will help the churchgoer to be able to distinguish between those ministries that are sincere from those that are artificial imitations.  There is a great difference between preaching and pretending to preach. 

Who Was That Masked Man?
Philip Doddridge in his work “On the Delivery of Sermons” provides an extensive warning against theatrical preaching and its destructive consequences in the life of the church. Theatrical preaching occurs when a preacher attempts to “transport into the views, the feelings, and the circumstances of the person represented.”  Theatrical preaching is the practice of acting what one is saying. It’s extremely detrimental to the spiritual life of the church. 



What The Gay Marriage Movement Should Know About God’s Rainbow

This last Friday is already designated as one of the most historic victories in our nation’s history as a divided Supreme Court on Friday ruled that same-sex couples can now marry nationwide.  This landmark opinion, as it’s being described, now opens the door for all gay and lesbian couples to have legally recognized marriages in all fifty states.  As soon as the announcement was made, gay and lesbian couples swarmed the streets with victory screams and chants. In short order, President Obama unequivocally spoke of the decision as a victory for America.  Within just a few hours, America itself seemed to be enveloped with the symbol of gay pride: the rainbow. 
Within the last twenty four hours, the rainbow has appeared everywhere.  I’ve seen pictures of the White House painted with the colors of a rainbow.  Silicon Valley companies are implementing all sorts of creative ways to use the rainbow as a sign of victory for the decision. Facebook has declared a celebration allowing members to add a rainbow filter to their profile picture to make clear those who support the decision.  Twitter has added a rainbow heart icon with the hash tag: Love wins. From Google to Starbucks to At&T, the rainbow has become the new flag for America, from sea to shining sea, America is now draped with the rainbow. 



What a great reminder from Calvin's letters to John Knox that we should moderate our rigor with regard to worship principles and ceremonies. 

First Letter of 1555:

"Certainly no one I think who is possessed of sound judgment, will deny that lighted tapers, and crucifixes, and other trumpery of the same description, flow from superstition.  When I lay it down for certain, that those who from free choice retain these things, are but too eager to drink from polluted dregs.  Nor do I see for what reason a church should be burdened with these frivolous and useless, not to call them by their real name, pernicious ceremonies, when a pure and simple order of worship is in our power.  But I check myself, lest I should seem to stir up a new strife, respecting a matter which, as I hear from, is happily set at rest." 

Third Letter of 1561:

"With regard to ceremonies, I trust, even should you displease many, that you will moderate your rigor. Of course it is your duty to see that the church be purged of all defilements which flow from error or superstition...But with this exception, you are well aware that certain things should be tolerated even if you don't quite approve of them

I am deeply afflicted, as you may well believe, that the nobles of your nation are split into factions, and it is not without reason that you are more distressed and tormented, because Satan is now plotting in the bosom of your church...but God is to be entreated that he may heal this evil also...For though your discord should spread no farther, already more than sufficient mischief has been done.  It will then belong to your wisdom and equity, in order that kindly affections be kept up, sedulously to disperse whatever remains there may be of estrangement. "

We all need this reminder.



The other day I stumbled upon an article by Farsch Askari lamenting what has happened to the Food Network.  The article is well-worth reading. In the article, Askari describes how the Food Network provided him a soothing release where he could escape from the stresses of daily life.  Watching the food network was a blissful and inspiring experience, driving his imagination and value for healthy eating as he watched real chefs in the kitchen craft their delectable gourmet dishes. 

But one day this all changed.  The reason: Guy Feiri.  What was once an authentic and stress relieving experience, was now, suddenly, replaced by a so called “rock-n-roll, unhealthy looking, food king.”  Askari goes on to describe how this one figure dramatically changed the entire course of the Food Network.  First, the Food Network became personality-driven.  The billabong wearing, college garage band maniac—circa 1995—had a new method of speaking to audience—he yells and speaks to the people like they’re five-year olds.  Then things got worse. In the wake of Fieri’s appearance, a host of other personalities began to dominate the network, well-known personalities such as Rachel Ray and Bobby Flay. Askari asks, “Did the head of their programming issue a mandate to seek out the most supremely irritating people who may or may not be able to cook decent food…?  

The second major shift is the most perplexing: Healthy cooking no longer seemed to matter on the Food Network.  Guy Feiri is offering “concoctions such as beer-battered meatball sandwiches, wrapped in a pizza and deep-fried in lard” and for desert a “sheet cake dipped in pancake batter, dunked in butter frosting and sprinkled with Pop-Tarts”—and he doesn’t even do any of the cooking.  Consequence?  Askari says, “Guy’s trying killing us.”

As I read the article I thought the most tragic consequence of the whole thing is when Askari laments the mass exodus of genuinely talented chefs.  Quality crafted dishes and culinary art no longer seemed to matter anymore, it became about ratings and personalities, a phenomenon that, in Askari’s eyes, has ruined the Food Network. The real fault remains, says Askari, with those who ever allowed this to happen.

Imagine for a minute substituting everything Askari describes in terms of the church today.  Would it be an unfair comparison?

I remember a time when coming to church was valued. Whether it was ever truly valued as it should have been is not what I am engaging, nor am I singing Mellencamp’s “Glory Days” with regard to the church.  I think know better than that.  But I do speak of a general value Christians placed upon going to church. There was a time when people had a general understanding of the value of worship.  At one time, across denominational lines, Christians used to gather twice on the Lord’s Day for worship.  It was accepted that something special was happening on Sunday’s when God’s people assembled together.

I know it’s out of vogue and considered legalistic to mention dressing-up for church, but dress used to convey in the church world something about what we believed we were doing.  Church was considered to be the most reverent and respectful act we did all week, and it earned our best preparation and response.  It was an escape for sinners, to come in the presence of God and receive from his hand real food and drink of eternal life—sacraments they “used” to be called.

It was intended to be refreshing. We sat intently listening to God’s pastors open His Word with sermons well-crafted, meditated upon, and prepared through the course of an entire week. Agreed, these no name pastors may not have had the “X-Factor”, but they were offering us real food, and it inspired us to want more of that food.  It was satisfying to the soul. We understood the gospel, grace, forgiveness, new life--the core doctrines of the Christian faith--and were inspired to keep our eyes fixed on God’s savior. 

But then one day it all changed.  The reason?  Well, I could answer that with naming about a dozen dominant Hollywood-esque personalities that began to fill the church.  The America Chapter 11 hall of faith (oops I mean “fame”) would certainly see figures such as ______, _______, _______, etc. And what more shall I say, for the time would fail me to tell you of, ______, _______, _______, _______, and_______.  I would fill in the blanks but we’ve come into a time when Christians don’t take well to mentioning of any names and I’m afraid that if I begin to do this many will disregard the entire post. 

But if I could mention a name, it would be Joel Osteen.  Like Askari’s circa 1995 Feiri, Osteen reminds me a lot of Brandon on 90210, less so Dillon, but nonetheless he still takes me to circa 1995--preppy style.  It really doesn’t matter who the figure is at the moment, we’ve become accustomed in Christianity to have one, and I’m sure the next one is already on deck. Shelf-life for these guys seems to be getting shorter and shorter even though a plethora of churches have now adopted the outdated model of yesterday's "Guy." What’s tragic is that in the wake of each dominant figure that arises, we see greater departure from the historic Christian faith.  And the farther we get, the more unrecognizable any Christian orthodoxy becomes for the new generation.

Askari’s overall concern is that Food Network has morphed into something other than a “food network.” Think about the consequences of this in terms of the church.  First, the church today is personality-driven.  We’re all about finding somebody relevant to the next generation. You know this. I am saying nothing new here. But we seem ignorant or at least unwilling to see the consequences of our rock-star Christianity.  We have a host of so-called pastors who are speaking to us like we’re idiots. Is a good sermon now only measured by how funny the pastor was in telling me about his personal home-life? And Christians today seem to love this. Sound familiar? Maybe this: "The prophets prophesy falsely and my people love to have it so (Jer. 5:31)." Askari says the Food Network speaks to people now as if they are in fifth-grade.  What grade-level, theologically speaking, does today’s preaching deserve?  You can answer.

We have a host of so-called pastors who are not trained.  Consequence?  Just as Guy Feiri never does the cooking himself because he is not a trained chef, and forces upon the audience food that slowly kills, the church today is fueled with so-called pastors who no longer preach. Is that a choice or it is because they do not know how? Whatever the answer, I do know this: training for the ministry doesn’t seem to matter at all anymore. And this has created a vacuum in which people no longer know what true preaching even sounds like.  Thus, the craft of preparing a sermon has little to do anymore with the actual Word of God and explaining its meaning.  It’s now about how witty the pastor can be in ticking the ears of the people by determining how best he can give them only what they want to hear.  It’s for this reason that the church often amounts to nothing more than being obnoxious and silly, and that seems to win the favor of the people.

Second, healthy food no longer seems to matter in church today.  We are spiritually getting “sheet cake dipped in pancake batter, dunked in butter frosting and sprinkled with Pop-Tarts.”  What ever happened to the meat and potatoes?  Yes, sometimes as a child my mom made me eat the brussel sprouts, even though it wasn't always a pleasant experience, I needed them. Why can’t we have meaty expositions of God’s Word that show the whole plan of salvation in Jesus Christ throughout redemptive history?  Do we even know what that tastes like anymore and the spiritual nourishment it provides?  If I may use Askari’s concern: don’t we realize the food we are receiving today is killing us and our children? 

But then comes the most tragic of consequences.  There is now becoming an “exodus” (shortage) of genuinely called pastors.  If you find them, generally speaking, they will be on the fringes, their churches small, full of struggle, undervalued, and under a great amount of pressure due to the “Guy Feiri’s” next door offering the “deep fried lard.”  And I come back to Askari’s concern that the real blame has to do with those who ever let things get like this.  Will the “Food Network” ever again be what it was designed to be? 



 In his book, "A Continuous Harmony: Essays Cultural and Agricultural," Wendell Berry writes,
Because of the obsession with short-term results that may be contained with the terms and demands of a single life, the interest of community is displaced by the interest of career.  The careerist teacher judges himself, and is judged by his colleagues, not by the influence he is having upon his students or the community, but by the number of his publications, the size of his salary and the status of the place to which his career has taken him thus far.  And in ambition he is where he is only temporarily; he is on his way to a more lucrative and prestigious place. Because so few stay to be aware of the effects of their works, teachers are not judged by their teaching, but by the short-term incidentals of publication and “service.” That teaching is a long-term service, that a teacher’s best work may be published in the children of grandchildren of his students, cannot be considered, for the modern educator, like his practical brethren in business and industry, will honor nothing that he cannot see.
I can't imagine a greater caution for those entering into Christian ministry (especially the Reformed pastorate) than to apply what Berry is saying to our context. Consider the painful application. Like modern teachers, pastors today are driven by short-term results. We are most concerned with being judged by ourselves and our colleagues as wise, intellectual, and accomplished. The ministry today is no longer driven by concern for the spiritual lives of our people, but instead, it's become a career, a platform for our own personal advancement. The ministry has become a stepping stone to the next and better thing, something more "lucrative and and prestigious." This manifests itself in constant restlessness. We're not really satisfied.  We look over the fence constantly to the bigger and better.

All of this creates a disconnect between what is a calling from God and our own aspirations of what we want ministry to be. What is lost is the sense from the people that we pastors love the sheep, are in it for the sheep, that we are servants given as sacrifices for the service of their faith.  Because of our displaced motives, our pastoral work is no longer judged by the nature of what constitutes pastoral work. The consequence of this lack of investment in people's lives is apparent, we now live in a generation that measures and judges our pastoral work by the "short term incidentals"of our publications and accomplishments, as we justify our displaced aspirations in the advancement of our names under the guise of "service." Does this mean that all incidentals are wrong? Of course not. But the motivations of our service should be checked as to whether they are an investment in us or the sacrificial love we are called to demonstrate to Christ's sheep.

What most interests me here is Berry's astute observation that teaching is a long-term service that the modern interpreter will never appreciate since he cannot see the results.  Berry says the best work of teachers is published in the "children of grandchildren in students." Oh that we would think of ministry this way!  This means, of course, that long-term investment in people's lives will often seem unsuccessful and lackluster, and will receive little approbation from a church world obsessed with numbers and immediate gratification. If God gives us to see some of the fruit of our pastoral labor in this life, then we should praise him for his kind providence. But our best work will be known tomorrow. Our faithfulness will be known in the generations to come, after we are dead and gone. This is God's way of doing ministry. It makes sense. This way glory goes to him as our motives remain challenged.

Pastors who adopt this modern paradigm for their ministry, dependent on being sustained by their big name, personality, and so-called "service," lacking any real investment in the lives of the people, tend to fall as quickly as they rose to power. This is, in my estimation, happening right now to Mark Driscoll and Mars Hill Church.

So I humbly caution those entering into the pastoral ministry. Brothers, we're not careerists. Are you in this for the up building of Christ's church, realizing that you may never live to see the results of your work, or are you in it to make a great name for yourself today?

Don't be a pastor, if you don't want to be a pastor.



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The following is my feeble attempt to wrestle through the 2k/neo-Calvinist controversy.  This is written with sincere concern for the church and in love.

Last week Carl Trueman interacted with D.G. Hart’s new book on Calvinism: A History, and posted an article with a fair concern of the transformationalist ideals.  Trueman writes,  
Surely it is time to become realistic. It is time to drop the cultural elitism that poses as significant Christian transformation of culture but only really panders to nothing more than middle class tastes and hobbies.  It is time to look again at the New Testament's teaching on the church as a sojourning people where here we have no lasting home."



Grumpy Old Men & The Reformed Tradition
Where are all the young people going? Why do the visitors never seem to stick?  Why have there been so many fights in our church history? Unfortunately, these are common questions in the Reformed tradition.  In my years as a pastor, I have been shocked over how much antipathy there has been toward Reformed churches.  It took me more than a few years to get a handle on why the reaction has been so strong.  The sad reality is that many people have witnessed fighting, church splits, abuses, hatreds, contentions, jealousies, all undergirded by a hard kind of legalism within the confines of a closed community that demonstrates nothing of the joy of Christ.  What are we to think of these things? Are there any legitimate criticisms of the Reformed faith that we should evaluate?